Life is too short to not be enjoyed as a single or not!

Lately, somehow I have seen single people look desperately for love partner. They look proud to be single but keep announce it over and over, doesn’t it make them look desperate?! Maybe I was or still one of them. Ironically, I am writing about it now. But I want to start trying to more relax and I prioritize things I should do instead.

I know as a single woman, there are time we crave someone to love, to share stories and things with. But, when life doesn’t give you want you want now, then what you should do?! Rather than keep preaching about it, it’s better to finally take a step to do something else than wait for a prince charming to come and save you.

Society is cruel when it comes to judging other human being. As hard as you try to stop to not listening to them, you will do it anyway, subconsciously. What’s wrong with being single now?!

Anyway, here the things I’ve learnt being single and depend on myself are:

Ø I know the boundaries I should give to myself and others. This would help me to select people to come into my life.

·Ø I should respect myself, so I wouldn’t beg for anyone’s attention. . I used to yield for someone’s attention even though I knew it was wrong to do, so they won’t leave me. But sorry my dear, that Dhanty is long gone, now, if you want to leave, please… my pleasure….

Ø I have to be independent because once you latch on someone, you would never know in the future when they are gone. What’s you gonna do?! Crying and begging for someone’s money, shelter, or put burden on someone else?! I might have a big ego but this won’t let anyone (especially a man) could overpower me. I might have less but I am proud for all these years, every pennies I got has been from my own effort, the tears, the sweat, yet not giving up for somebody. Even if I finally in relationship with somebody, this part of me, being independent won’t go away.

Ø I get comfortable being alone, so I get to know myself more. What’s my likes and dislikes?! What I want and I need in my life?!

I’ve been rejected by some men. But at the same time, I am glad that it went that way. Because I realized the person weren’t deserve me. I deserve someone better than them. Not a perfect one, but I know it’s not them!

And If… I destined to be alone forever, at least I know… It doesn’t make me less as a woman. I have lived my life without anyone’s help yet still alive and breathing is already a blessing from God. I have my own freedom that many people crave it, so enjoy I can enjoy it as long as I want! I know I am a good person and have a good heart. So I will keep spread my kindness to everyone, anyone in need. And last but not least, I have God, so I should keep in mind that I never walk alone. So, keep the smile on your face!

And if… someday I do have someone (I choose), I know how they should treat me cause I will show him how I treat myself before he come into my life. He must be really special in my life cause I finally would give a space in my life for someone else. He must be extraordinary cause he has a remarkable personality and traits that remarkable enough to enchanted me to choose him. So, rather than you change for someone else, it’s better for you to change to be a better version of yourself. I believe, God has His way to why and how put two people together for eternity.

So, I guess I should just life the live without a title judging me nor control the way I live. :)